Jordan - Matthew 18

"If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.  But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.'  If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector." (v15-17)

Not sure what treating them like a pagan or tax collector means, but the rest of these words, I love!  I find myself listening to people who are having issues with others an awful lot.  Most likely, its not because I give good advice, but because I lettng them vent.  Letting off steam is important because it provides (in the end) a level headed perspective.  But it is even more important to address the issue directly and with the person you are having a problem with! 

I imagine Jesus talking indirectly to one of his own disciples through these words.  Like Peter talking to Jesus and telling that he heard one of the other disciples praying he wrong way.  I can see Jesus just shaking his head and saying "Have you spoken to him about it?  And what about the other disciples, what are their feelings?"

Talk it out!  Its the only way problems are solved!